The Yellow Shirted Team and The Invisible Problem

One of the interesting things about my cruise vacation is that in addition to family groups, there are work groups. Perhaps they are celebrating last year’s great results, or a team is being rewarded for the completion of a major project.
Whatever the reason, the team in the yellow shirts likes to drink.
I saw lots of people introducing their partners and spouses to one another, so it appears they had the opportunity to bring someone.
What I have noticed is how they seem to act as if they are all alone on this trip. I have seen them push others aside as they go to the bar, and I have seen them grow louder and louder, not recognizing that others around them were now adjusting to their behavior.
Now, I could make the argument that those who moved because of the yellow shirted team’s behavior are being intolerant of their behavior. In my opinion, they would be justified to do so.
But what really strikes me is something that goes much deeper than tolerance. It even goes much deeper than awareness. I would expect anyone to be aware that they are sharing this ship with others, and to display some level of requisite courtesy.
Intolerance and impatience are not the issue. I think it’s more like lack of acceptance.
You can see intolerance or impatience as just bad behavior. But lack of acceptance is relatively invisible. You don’t recognize it. And that concerns me. It’s one thing to say “I think we should get Jean’s perspective on this.” That might look like inclusion. But how about ” I really want to get Jean to weigh in on this.” That look more like acceptance. Anything short of acceptance can be invisible.

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